How would it feel to be UNSHAKEABLE in your life?

Could you use the observation as an opportunity and ask yourself “I wonder how I could see myself as self-assured?” “What is it that has her appear confident to me?”  What can I learn from him about myself?”

Over time we begin to have our own verdicts about success and failure and to develop concern about how others view our achievements or blunders.  These judgments step in as barriers that get in the way of taking risks and trying new things. 

Seven Things that Undermine Your Natural Confidence:
Thing One

Dear (first name),
In preparation for the upcoming Lunch and Learn on Friday, April 12th, I identified seven things that can undermine natural confidence. You may have come to believe that you need to do something in order to gain or grow your confidence, however, the truth is, you are already confident. Nevertheless, there are common thoughts that destabilise that confidence.
When you recognize the underlying beliefs (which are generally not true), those ideas no longer sabotage your natural capacity to feel self-assured and trust in yourself. You are able to see and accept things the way they are, not how you want or need them to be. You can see the truth of who you are – an intelligent, resourceful person doing your best with the information you have in each moment. You begin to understand that on a spiritual level, there is nothing wrong, everything is unfolding as is for reasons you many not yet comprehend.
Here is Thing One.
Thinking You Need to Be Special
Growing up, you may have been told that you were special, and you absolutely were in the eyes of loving parents. You may have been praised for being cute, precocious and clever. These messages may have had you come to believe that being special meant you were safe, loved and accepted by those you depended on for care.
Perhaps you came to understand that if you excelled in anything – school, sports, art, music – your achievements garnered praise and recognition from others. You learned to please, perform and perfect as a way to guarantee continued appreciation for who you were.
However, current research suggests that the number one cause of anxiety and depression among young people is the belief that they need not only to be special but to be exceptional. Pressure is exerted to get the best marks, get into the best schools, play on the best teams, have the best clothes, friends, etc. These pressures exert a lot of stress and expectations.
What if it was okay to be ordinary? This does not mean that you are not unique, with your own distinctive combination of talent, strengths, intelligences, it means it is okay to be all you are and no more. What would that do for your self-esteem?
Join us for the upcoming Lunch and Learn to further explore your Natural Confidence.
To Your Freedom and Success,
Marlene
Current research suggests that the number one cause of anxiety and depression among young people is the belief that they need not only to be special but to be exceptional.

Social psychologist Amy Cuddy’s research shows that two traits, trustworthiness and confidence, account for 80 to 90 percent of first impressions.   Why are first impressions so important? “First impressions matter when you want to build a lasting trust,”

In Supercoach’ Michael Neill’s book – Creating the Impossible, he provides parameters for taking on your impossible project and differentiates it from something you should, could or ought to do. I believe that often we talk ourselves out of what we really want because we believe we might fail. What if it did not matter?